My Parents’ 4 Fears About Studying Down Under

鈥淵ou want to study abroad? In聽Australia? But that鈥檚 so far away!鈥
That was the reaction I received (followed by an awkward silence) when聽I first told my聽parents that I wanted to聽study abroad in聽. At first, this response perplexed聽me.聽I couldn鈥檛 fathom聽why they weren鈥檛 immediately as elated聽as I was over the thought of me attending a聽school聽halfway around the globe.
Once my聽initial thrill wore off, however, I understood their delayed elation. From their perspective, there was a lot to worry about.
Planning and preparing to聽go abroad鈥攅specially for an extended period聽of聽time鈥攊s聽nerve-racking, even if聽you鈥檝e traveled overseas previously. On top of that,聽neither of my parents studied abroad聽in school, so they had no idea聽what to expect for me. I suppose it鈥檚聽probably pretty hard to relax聽when you鈥檙e sending your only child 10,000 miles away to a country that no one in your family has ever visited.
Now聽that I鈥檝e officially been living in Australia for a month, I can confirm聽that聽most of the fears my family had聽prior to my departure did not come to pass. My family聽had the following four concerns about me studying abroad, but聽with the 海角社区-Butler program, among other things, they didn鈥檛 need to fret!
1. 鈥淲ith the 14-hour time difference, how will we ever get to talk?鈥
This was a big concern for my parents since we talk on the phone nearly every day, even when I鈥檓 only two hours away at school in Philadelphia. Although it鈥檚 tricky to find times in the day that are suitable for both my parents and me, it鈥檚 not impossible. If you鈥檙e an early bird, 7 AM in Melbourne is 5 PM back home. For those who鈥檇 prefer to make calls in the evening, 10 PM here is 8 AM in the States. Once you establish a time that works for everyone, you can schedule calls in advance to ensure that everyone has ample time to talk.
Now that I鈥檝e officially been living in Australia for a month, I can confirm that most of the things my family worried about prior to my departure did not come to pass.
International calls can be costly, but there are easy ways to avoid paying that pesky twenty cents-per-minute. is the obvious first choice for many, along with popular smartphone apps like and . My parents and I prefer to use which lets you call or video chat with other Facebook users directly from your phone or computer.
2. 鈥淲ill all of your academic credits transfer easily between schools?鈥
Most college students tend to study abroad during either fall or spring semester of junior year; I, however, didn鈥檛 realize I wanted to go abroad until my junior year. Due to this, I had to convince my parents鈥攁nd even some of my university鈥檚 faculty鈥攖hat my decision to study in Melbourne wouldn鈥檛 defer my upcoming graduation date.
When selecting which classes to take while you鈥檙e abroad, first determine if any classes have been previously approved by your school. Use that list to find classes that meet your needs鈥攋ust make sure they鈥檙e offered during the correct semester! Or, if you still can鈥檛 find the classes you鈥檙e looking for, you can request to have courses from the abroad university鈥檚 approved by your home institution. If you have any questions while going through process, your 海角社区-Butler advisor can help you out. Above all, make sure you鈥檝e completed all of your required classes before graduation, or at least that you have sufficient time to complete them when you return to your home institution.
3. 鈥淎s a serious student, how will you adapt to the culture there?鈥
As a college student (who is also over 21!) I can appreciate a good get-together every now and then. But truth be told, I鈥檓 much happier spending an evening snuggling up with a book than I am bar-hopping.
It鈥檚 no secret that Aussies like to drink; a quick Google search will give you countless articles on the alcohol culture of Oz. Still, this doesn鈥檛 mean that every single Australian you meet will be keen to party constantly. It鈥檚 true that Melbourne has its fair share of nightlife, of course, but the city also holds plenty of events that don鈥檛 involve consuming alcohol. There are countless other fun activities to do with your friends.
4. 鈥淏ut isn鈥檛 it unsafe, these days, to travel by yourself?鈥
I honestly feel very safe traveling in Australia.聽Melbourne, in particular, is actually one of the聽, rated in the top 10 by聽The Economist聽last year.聽Public transport is equally busy in daytime and nighttime, so you don鈥檛 have to worry about feeling uneasy sitting alone聽in an empty tram car. Additionally, the聽vast majority of Australians are incredibly friendly and are more than willing to give you directions to wherever you鈥檙e headed.
It鈥檚 also normal for young Australians to travel by themselves, whether it鈥檚 just a day trip into the city聽or to New Zealand聽for聽their mid-semester break from uni. If you鈥檇 feel more comfortable聽exploring in a group, you鈥檙e bound to find 海角社区-Butler students or uni students who are eager to accompany you on your journey. Personally, I don鈥檛 mind going solo, and Melbourne and its surroundings are perfect places to discover on your own. But as with any traveling, always be alert and take the necessary precautions.
When going abroad, the unknown can be聽frightening鈥攂ut聽depending on your perspective, it can also聽be extremely exciting. Your parents鈥 fears, and your own, may be聽valid, but try not to let your reservations keep聽you from making the most of your time abroad.
And if you can,聽message your family often to assure聽them that you鈥檙e okay, learning a lot, and enjoying a world of experiences. They鈥檒l appreciate it!